The gays are up to their shenanigans again, and I am living. Lil Nas X is in what Christians, self-proclaimed spiritualists (but really just Christians with extra steps), and weird people on Twitter would probably call hot water after the release of his new music video “Montero (Call Me By Your Name).” If you’re not a Lil Nas fan or don’t listen to much hip-hop then you should check out the video hyperlinked in the last sentence.

Before we even get two sentences deep into this article, I’m just going to go ahead and call Robert Aaron Long’s attack what it is: a hate crime. Period. For me, and the law according to Georgia’s statutes, it is, in fact, a hate crime. A crime that is first a crime and secondly committed out of bias is absolutely what this was. While Long may claim that his attacks were not racially motivated, he was still targeting women. That’s a hate crime.

Do I cry? Do I pretend like today is just another day? Do I get angry at people who seem to be trying to competitively out sad each other?

Humanity, we have a problem. Racial “preference” in sex and dating is not, as it certainly should not be, a thing. Do I think that there exists a natural development of comfort from or towards a certain archetype or culture? We’ll call it familiarity. Sure! I mean think of how when you’re raised eating a certain food then you grow up and you love it (or you hate it) because you had it all the time.

I get it, PDA and public promiscuity aren’t your thing, but it is some people’s thing. Let them enjoy it.

Which brings me to why anyone (Any.One.) who isn’t Black or Afro shouldn’t even THINK about saying it. While it’s true I don’t think Black people should really be using it either; it’s literally a part of the culture that goes so far back I see how it’s a little inescapable for some. It developed as a regular aspect of the spoken language, after all.

Sorry ladies, gents, and others, but our collective baby daddy doesn’t play well with groups, and I blame toxic masculinity. Everything from Erik Killmonger’s posture to his obsession with phallic firearms screams it.

Honestly, I never thought about it. As I said, I’m gender-fluid, so if someone referred to an orifice on my body as anything I really wouldn’t care, but what about people who do? The idea that people may take issue with this sprung up one day when I dared to look in *dun dun dunnnn* the comments section.

This one’s a long one y’all. While not nearly as controversial as race and dating (which is apparently VERY controversial), but it’s important to me nonetheless.